Comments on: Meany

By: Amy

Amy — Sat, 07 Jun 2008 01:51:17 +0000

Hmm…maybe we do know the same people. Don’t care what others think of you. If you live your life by the highest morals, stand up for what you believe in and to hell with everyone else. I know that I’m a good friend to my friends and tell them the truth when needed. Anyone who calls it differently (a) doesn’t know me or what I stand for and (b) isn’t a friend.

By: Krystle

Krystle — Thu, 05 Jun 2008 03:27:19 +0000

Hey! It’s good to be mean sometimes, some people just deserve every bit of it. Good for you for standing up for yourself!

And I laughed hysterically at that picture… it’s just, I don’t know… funny!

By: MissPrissy

MissPrissy — Wed, 04 Jun 2008 20:49:17 +0000

I used to have that thing too, the one where I had to have people like me, and was afraid to be mean. The older I get, the easier it is to not care…see? something to look forward to:)

By: connie

connie — Wed, 04 Jun 2008 15:05:33 +0000

Standing up to people and being assertive is what I need to work on. It’s just not in me to be mean to people, at least not intentionally. I worry way too much about other people’s feelings to do that.
Thanks for the comments. I love them!

By: Susanna

Susanna — Wed, 04 Jun 2008 13:58:41 +0000

There’s a difference between being mean and being assertive. Meanness is about making yourself feel powerful at the expense of others. Assertiveness is about standing your ground while not compromising the things that make you a nice person.

There are classes and books about assertiveness training. It’s definitely something you can learn, and if you feel it’s a skill you need more work on, go for it!

By: Matt

Matt — Wed, 04 Jun 2008 13:32:50 +0000

Don’t go changing .. to try and please me .. you never want to work that hard … Billy Joel .. the master!

Seriously, why do you want to change? Is there something wrong with being nice? Actually, if I could take a slice of you and put it in me, I would. I’m way to skeptical, way too cynical, and often a real smart ass. I am unfortunately mean or hurtful, and often by accident. Dont try to be more like me. Make me more like you.

You really dont WANT to be MEAN to people anyway. You may want to stand up to them. that’s different. If someone is hurtful, you can just say “Thanks” and walk away. Or you can say “That was pretty uncalled for” and walk away. Or you can say “Wow, you’re a schmuck” and walk away. Those arent mean though. They’re defending yourself, or at least “your pride”.

In the end, the walk away part is the key. You have the opportunity to walk away. obviously, it’s harder to walk away from family or life long friends. But when someone is being rude or mean or condescending, you have the option of not interacting with them (for the most part). Sure, you may get stuck with them on a “work” basis, ie, the co-worker who you HAVE to interface with on projects. Therefore the walk away is temporary. But your cute little feet can carry you away from a situation that is mean and hurtful, and speak volumes of mean without saying a word. If they ask where you are going as they are “talking” to you, just say “someplace nicer than your comment”. They’ll get the hint!